Size 14 Woman Shares Abusive Fat-Shaming Messages She Gets From Dating Matches

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A woman has considered giving up on online dating after receiving a number of fat-shaming messages from men.

Jess Smith recently returned to online dating apps after breaking up with her boyfriend of 10 months, who she met on the site Plenty of Fish.

The 26-year-old stated in her online profile she was looking for a gentleman but dozens of nasty messages began flooding her inbox every week.

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Some matches sent sexually explicit opening messages and others sent horrible comments about Jess weight. The Tinder user is a size 14 – a size smaller than the British average, according to The Independent – but weight or dress size, no matter what it may be, is never an excuse for fat-shaming.

Jess, who works as a debt collector, recalled one exchange in which she rebuffed a Tinder match for asking for nude photos of her and he responded by calling her a one [out of 10] on a good day.

She said:

He actually swiped right for me so he obviously liked my pictures.

If you speak inappropriately to me, youre going to get unmatched.

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The 26-year-old told the man to be more respectful, to which he responded I dont know who you think youre talking to. Jess pointed out he wasnt Gods gift and said he was barely a six out of 10; a comment which riled her match.

The man responded:

If youre serious about finding someone get your arse down the gym and stop using filters. And lay off them doughnuts to [sic].

Jess described his reaction as a low blow, saying you wouldnt walk up to someone in the street and tell them theyre fat.

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She added:

He just didnt like when I called him out for being cocky and rude. Im a size 14. Thats less than the British average. Even if it was [bigger than the average], nobody has the right to say that to you.

The young woman has considered giving up on dating apps but she feels it would be hard to meet someone elsewhere, explaining its the same with everyone – youre working or youre busy.

While apps allow users to meet new people without spending hours and hours out and about, Jess said theyre getting inconvenient for people because theyre getting abused on there.

One message called her fatty, while another user said they hoped Jess would find a nice wife beater.

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The 26-year-old doesnt take the rude messages to heart and instead tries to make her matches see why their comments are hurtful by asking what their mother would think of them.

She explained the ability to hide behind a screen enables people to send abusive messages as its easy to pretRead More – Source

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